Tuesday, January 5, 2016

P&J's Guide to New Years' Resolutions

Ah, New Year's resolutions- or as I like to call them "2-week-long-diets". There's something about the time-honored tradition of creating unreasonable goals and then quickly giving up on them that keeps us writing lists and posting "new year, new me" Facebook statuses every time the holiday rolls around. Here at Pacific & June, we've got a few tips to creating (and sticking) with your resolutions this year.

1. Be realistic.
I think this is probably the most important one. So often people tell themselves that they want to lost 10 pounds a month, run a marathon, solve world hunger and create the next Snapchat. Guess what? The less realistic your goals are, the more likely you are to fail and give up entirely. Instead, focus on one thing at a time, like "this month I'm going to cut back my sugar intake to once a week".

2. Make sure you have a support system in place.
If you want to eat healthier, tell your friends and explain to them why it's important to you! Chances are they'll be supportive and be conscious of that when you're all going out to brunch or even staying in for a night. You'll also have people holding you accountable, which is more likely to keep you on track.

3. Stop thinking of New Year's as the only time you can make a change.
Instead of failing and waiting until next year to set goals again, think of your New Year's resolutions as a starting point on the path to your goals and add throughout the year. Say your goal is to go back to grad school- make your focus for January gathering up as much information on the application process as you can, then in February start creating a timeline and study plan for entrance exams, etc. Breaking your overall goals into smaller, more manageable parts will make them feel less overwhelming.

4. Stop being so hard on yourself!!!
I can't stress this one enough! It's ok if you fall off the wagon. It's ok if you swore to cut out sugar and had a slice of cake at your friend's birthday party, or if you swore you'd get your GPA up and got a C on an exam. I get that in this age of social media where everyone carefully curates their public image that it's easy to compare yourself to others and convince yourself that everyone is working out everyday, hanging out with their friends, eating perfect healthy meals and maintaining flawless grades or careers but in reality, no one's life is perfect. Just because you aren't seeing other people's problems on Instagram doesn't mean they aren't there, so I mean it when I say GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. You don't have to justify your slice of cake with an extra 30 minutes on the treadmill or that C with the fact that you had a million other tests that week. In the wise words of Hannah Montana, "nobody's perfect", so just relax and move on.

In short, it's awesome to have goals but you shouldn't beat yourself up over them. The only thing that matters is whether you are happy and whether you are meeting goals that are important to you. So go forth and start working on those resolutions (even if that resolution is to keep on killing the game). Happy New Year, darlings!

xoxo,
Yasi