Friday, July 31, 2015

3 things I've learned from being in a sorority

Ok, so I've been the worst about blogging lately. Last weekend I went to a leadership conference for my sorority (which was incredible but exhausting) and managed to pick something up on the plane so I have been out of commission all week. On the bright side, it's given me a lot of time to reflect on the discussions I've had during the 2 DZ conferences I've been to this year, so I thought I'd take a moment to be a little cheesy and reflect on some of the most important I've learned from being in a sorority.

sistahs from another mistah

Your success isn't contingent on others' failure. Seriously, this is a big one. So much of the time we try to tear others down when we feel threatened by their success. Somehow it feels like a personal attack- if they do well in school it's not just that they're going after their goals, but they're somehow trying to beat us. Envy is a natural feeling, but try to take a step back and realize that you probably aren't going out for leadership positions or applying for jobs to beat someone, you're doing it because it's a personal goal and gives you a sense of accomplishment. When show genuine happiness for others' successes and help build them up, everyone wins. 

You don't have to apologize for yourself. Why is it that we allow people to criticize us for everything from the way we speak to the shows we watch? Yeah, I like pink. Most of my iPod is Beyonce, TSwift, and Nicki Minaj with some 1D thrown in, I can recite most of Gilmore Girls (which I will do in my upspeak-y voice), I cry at ASPCA commercials and I just can't on a regular basis. You can call me basic, roll your eyes, say that it's 'so typical' of me or reduce me to a stereotype but I know that my Kate Spade obsession and the inhuman squeal I make when I see a puppy doesn't mean I'm any less intelligent, compassionate, or ambitious. I do things that make me happy and if you don't like it then that's too damn bad because I'm not sorry. 

You can do anything but you can't do everything. Take some time to figure out what's really important to you and figure out how to incorporate those things into your life in a way that you find fulfilling. Maybe that means taking on a leadership role in an organization, maybe it means joining a recreational sports league, maybe it just means joining a fun club. Just recognize your limits and know that you need to be your own first priority- when things start to feel overwhelming and activities are more stressful than enjoyable, it's time to rethink your schedule. 

xoxo,
Yasi "feeling very zen rn"